Gratitude

Big gratitude for your support and encouragement through the initial stages of getting my new website launched

I want to welcome you all to Resonate Therapy. It is way more than massage and treatments it’s a space to feel supported, explore what you may be carrying and learn practices that can help you feel more connected and balanced.

I am opening this space for all of you who want to expand your knowledge and explore more of your potential. We live in challenging times and the pressures can be great, but they don’t have to diminish your shine or your power.

I have spent years working through my own trauma, doing the work, releasing and finding new tools to expand and grow because the last thing I wanted in life was groundhog day of misery!

There is so much to talk about, it's hard to know where to start but my heart is telling me to start with gratitude! When we speak of gratitude it is usually because we have received something or something great is happening in our lives. I discovered gratitude in my lowest moments, when I felt I had no one and nothing, when my heart was at her heaviest and my mind was full of negative thoughts.

At the time I was into Hip Hop music and there was one line in a song I loved, it was...

"LAY IT DOWN FLIP IT AND REVERSE IT" (Missy Elliott)

So I wrote all the negatives down. Next to each one, I wrote the opposite and began consciously practising a different perspective. Sounds complicated..? Well, it wasn't!

It felt a little like ‘fake it till you make it’ at first, but with practice I began to notice a real shift in the way I thought and felt.

I started to change the program!

It was one of the greatest epiphanies of my life.

It gave me back a sense of agency and helped me understand that I didn’t have to believe or follow every thought that appeared. With awareness and practice, I could begin to change the patterns I was reinforcing. It was my choice, they were just like a computer program running through its history complete with pop ups that were driving me mad and making me sad, so they had to go! This was the beginning of my journey with energy, where we put our energy creates a ripple effect. Our thoughts can influence how we feel in our bodies, affecting our emotions, stress responses and behaviour. From an energetic perspective, I also began to notice how differently I moved through the world when my inner dialogue changed.

For me, this began to give new meaning to the idea that ‘like attracts like’. I started noticing how my thoughts and beliefs influenced what I focused on, how I behaved and the kinds of relationships and experiences I participated in.

Since starting this practice, I witnessed a huge change in the people and clientele entering my life, the experiences I was having and the fulfilment I felt.

This now flows into every aspect of my life, mental, emotional, physical and spiritual!

It was a liberating awakening and it gave me back my power!

I found gratitude throughout that journey and eventually began to honour what I had moved through, recognising the tools, insight and freedom I had gained along the way.

It was the gift on the other side!

Prayer, mantra and sacred practice can also bring us into a place of gratitude.

These days I flip and reverse those thoughts in a split second and my reality has never been better.

These days I can "flip & reverse" unhelpful thought much more quickly. The more I practise, the easier it becomes to notice when my mind is moving into familiar patterns and gently redirect my attention towards something more supportive.

The 3 gratitude practices I use daily are:

1) Put it in perspective, I step back from the immediate dilemma and look at the bigger picture. Is this something I can change? Is the amount of stress I’m creating helping me? What remains good, supportive or steady in my life alongside this challenge?

2) Look at the beautiful people or places in my world for e.g. my son, partner, family, pets, friendships, garden, beach etc, I am instantly grateful!

3) I think about the times when I didn't have the quality of life I enjoy today. Gratitude

You can adapt these to anything you love and appreciate having, it's all relative to what you value.

Gratitude, reflection and conscious awareness are practices I continue to weave through my workshops, retreats and facilitated experiences, creating space to explore our patterns and reconnect with what supports us.

For me, gratitude became one of the first steps towards changing my relationship with my thoughts and the energy I was bringing to my life. Gratitude doesn’t ask us to deny what hurts. It gives us another place to stand alongside it, a place where grace, perspective and possibility can also exist.

The key is practice. Gratitude is not about pretending everything is wonderful, it is about learning to recognise what is still here, what is supporting us and what remains worthy of our appreciation.